5 Photography Tips for your Wedding day

After photographing many weddings across Colorado as a Denver wedding photographer, I've learned that the difference between a stressful wedding day and a joyful one often comes down to preparation. Not the kind of preparation you'd expect, not about choosing the right flowers or perfecting your seating chart but preparation that directly impacts your photography experience and the images you'll treasure for a lifetime. 

These are the five things I wish every couple knew before their wedding day. They're based on real observations from real weddings across Denver and the Rocky Mountains. It will help you feel more confident, relaxed, and stress free on one of the most important days of your life.

1. Book Your Engagement Session with Your Wedding Photographer

An engagement session with your wedding photographer isn't just about getting photos for your save the dates or wedding website. It's about building a relationship, trust and understanding of each other before your big day. During your engagement session, your photographer gets to learn who you are as individuals and as a couple, sees how you interact with each other naturally, what makes you laugh, how you hold each other, what feels comfortable and what feels awkward. This understanding is valuable on your wedding day when emotions are high and time is limited.

The engagement session is your opportunity to get to know your photographer and get comfortable in front of the camera.

I don't pose couples - I direct them. There's a difference. Posing can sometimes feel stiff, awkward or unnatural but direction is collaborative and authentic. During your engagement session, whether we're in the Denver Botanic Gardens, Rocky Mountain National Park, or your favorite local spot, you'll learn how I work, how I communicate, and what to expect from me. By the time your wedding day arrives, I'm not a stranger with a camera, I'm your new friend and together we're a team who trusts each other.

I've photographed couples being photographed for the first time on their wedding day and I can always tell at first it takes  time for the couple to  relax, trusting me and figuring out how to get photographed together. Couples who book engagement sessions walk into their Colorado wedding day confident, comfortable, and ready. 

2. Schedule 20-30 Minutes for Editorial Portraits After Getting Ready

Here's something I've noticed after shooting many Colorado weddings: time moves incredibly fast after hair and makeup are finished. At that time, most couples only get candid getting-ready photos. Those moments are important and authentic, but they're not the same as intentional, editorial-style portraits.

By the time you're fully ready, the getting-ready space has transformed into chaos. Makeup bags cover every surface, bridesmaid dresses over chairs, and everyone's personal belongings are scattered everywhere. You look stunning, but the space doesn't. That is why scheduling 20-30 minutes specifically for portraits after getting ready is so important for brides and grooms. It gives us time to move to a clean location, a quiet room, an elegant hallway at your venue, or even outside if weather permits.These intentional, editorial images where you look your absolute best are the ones you'll want to frame.

Most couples don't think to build this time into their timeline, and afterwards they tell me they wish they had more portraits of just themselves looking like that. These are the moments that capture you at your most beautiful that your parents cry over before the emotion and celebration of the day takes over. Don't let the getting-ready chaos steal this opportunity.

3. Decide If You Want an Unplugged Ceremony

Here's a scenario I've witnessed countless times, the officiant pronounces you married, you share your first kiss as a married couple, and you begin walking back down the aisle together with pure joy then suddenly some guests jump up with their phones and leaning out into the aisle or stepping directly into it to capture the moment. The result? Instead of a beautiful clean photo of you two walking down the aisle as newlyweds, I'm shooting around the back of one of your guests' heads as they hold up their phone to take photos. Sometimes guests are completely in the frame and block the shot. Or during the first kiss, guests will stand up in the aisle and your first kiss will be blocked by them and that's not a moment we can recreate. Consider asking your officiant to make a simple announcement before the ceremony begins: "The couple has asked that you stay in your seats until the ceremony ends so their photographer can capture this special moment.  Most guests are happy to comply, they just didn't realize they were in the way.

I've photographed both unplugged ceremonies and ceremonies where guests had their phones out and the difference is dramatic. At unplugged ceremonies, guests are present, emotional, and engaged. They're watching YOU, not their screens. The ceremony photos are clean, unobstructed, and capture genuine moments without distractions. 

You hired a professional wedding photographer to capture these moments. Let me do my job without competing with Phones and you'll have the ceremony images you deserve.

4. Communicate Must-Have Shots and Family Dynamics

Clear communication before your wedding day makes everything run smoothly, especially family formal photos. Here's what I need to know from you as your wedding photographer, your family dynamics and your must-have shot list.

First, family dynamics. Not every family is simple and straightforward. Parents might be divorced and don't want to be in photos together. There might be tension between certain family members. Stepparents might or might not be included in certain groupings. A grandparent might have mobility issues and need to be photographed first so they can sit down. When you communicate family situations beforehand I can plan accordingly and prevent awkward, uncomfortable moments when emotions are already high.

Second, the family photo list. Before your wedding, sit down and write out exactly which family combinations you want photographed. Be specific with names, not just "my family" or "his side." For example: "Bride with Mom and Dad," "Bride with Mom, Dad, and brother Jake," "Bride with Mom's side: Mom, Aunt Lisa, Uncle Tom, cousins Sarah and Mike," and so on. Send this list to me at least a week before your wedding.

Here's why this matters for the wedding timeline,  when I have a clear list with names, family photos go incredibly fast. I literally just call out names - "Next up: Sarah, Mike, Jake, and Mom!" - and we knock it out efficiently. You can relax completely, knowing I've got it controlled through an organized list and no one will be forgotten.

Without a list? Family photos become chaotic. We spend 20-30 minutes with people wandering in and out, the couple trying to remember every family member, guests getting impatient, and someone important gets forgotten. With a list? We're done in 10-15 minutes, everyone is happy, and you don't have to think about it at all. 

5. Prep Your Wedding Detail Shot Collection

Wedding mornings can be overwhelming for brides. Everyone is asking you questions, your bridesmaids need to know the timeline, your mom is asking about the ceremony order, your hairstylist is asking which side you want your hair swept, and your makeup artist needs to know if you want more or less lipstick. The last thing you need is your wedding photographer also asking, "Where are your shoes? Where's your invitation? Can you find your jewelry?" while you're trying to focus on getting ready and staying calm. 

This is why I tell every couple planning a wedding, to gather all your detailed items the night before or early that morning. Put them together in a box, a bag, or on a clean table where your photographer can easily find them. What details? Your wedding rings (both of them), your invitation, your shoes, your jewelry, your veil, your perfume, any sentimental items that have a meaning to you, and your bouquet when it arrives. 

When I arrive at your getting-ready location and your details are already gathered, I can start shooting immediately. I don't have to interrupt you while you're in the makeup chair. I can quietly photograph your beautiful details and document everything without adding to your stress or taking up your mental energy.

After shooting many Colorado weddings, I know that wedding mornings are one of the most high-stress times of the day for brides. Everyone needs something from you. My goal as your wedding photographer is to reduce your stress, not add to it. When your details are prepped and ready, I can do my job quietly and efficiently in the background while you focus on the important things, spending time with the people you love, enjoying the process of getting ready, and staying present for this special morning.

Ready to Plan Your Colorado Wedding Photography?

As a wedding photographer who's captured 100+ love stories across the Rocky Mountains, I specialize in authentic, emotional storytelling that honors how your day truly felt, not just how it looked. From intimate weddings in the mountains to grand celebrations at Denver's finest venues, I'm here to document your unique love story.

Let's discuss your wedding photography vision and make sure you're fully prepared for stunning images that capture every meaningful moment. Contact me today to book your engagement session and reserve your 2026 Colorado wedding date.

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